Confidence is Sexy! Try It On …

…and then I was reborn almost simultaneously!

After years of struggling to find and understand my true purpose in life, the time had finally come to do just that. Of course, I had no idea it was coming.

It was a typical day, I was talking to a stranger on the phone and helping her find some understanding in her own life.  She was so excited and I was thrilled.  I smiled and I could hear her smile over the phone.  Ahh, life was good because I had made a difference in someone’s life that day.  So I get home, work out and jump in the shower.  And yes, I’m singing in the shower too. Why wouldn’t I be?

I get out of the shower and all of a sudden my mind starts to wander back to the conversation I had with this woman.  I started to remember some of the things she said to me, like “Dina, I had just gotten home and was trying to figure how to unwind from my awful day at a job I don’t like and then you called me. You’ve put me in such a good mood, I don’t need to unwind. Thank you so much for being such a positive person. I really like talking to you!” My heart started to get heavy. Not in a bad way but a strange way. I had never felt like this before so I kinda just stood there.

Then I remember more.  We talked about how she couldn’t afford to pay me for coaching and I said that’s ok, maybe you could help me spread my message (of confidence) or help me run a workshop, etc. I told her I would love to help women learn new skills and I know she’d be great at it.  She jumped at the idea! “I would love to help you spread your message. What you’re doing Dina is so needed by every woman out there. I’ll do whatever I can.”  This is where I lost it. Tears came to my eyes and I couldn’t stop myself. Here was someone who didn’t know me but knew what my important mission was here on Earth.  I was born to coach women on confidence.  I cried like someone had died. It was me. The old me.

The part of me that was unclear of where and who I needed to be disappeared right at that moment. I started balling my eyes out.  I couldn’t stop.  My heart cried. My soul cried.  All tears of sadness that one chapter was over but also tears of joy that my next chapter had just begun.  Something was different about me now.  I could feel it. I looked at myself in the mirror and saw my blood shot eyes. But the eyes looking back at me were unrecognizable.  I didn’t know the woman staring back at me.

Then I smiled. I wiped the tears from my eyes and I knew. I had my purpose and I knew where I had to be and what I had to do. God had created me to help women build up their confidence, not so I could be successful, but so they could be successful. (sigh) My life was never my own. That was clear now.  It belonged to every woman out there who needed me now.  As Mahatma Ghandi said, “My life is my message.” And so is mine.

I tell this story to tell you this, never give up on finding your purpose in life. No matter when it comes to you, young or old, it will be the right time for you.  I am 40 years old and I have just been shown the way. Why now? Maybe because I finally realized it was never about “me”.

If you’re not sure how to find your purpose in life, try these (I did them):

1) Do work you love (and be of service to others while you do it)

2) Help people unconditionally (don’t ask for anything in return-do it because you want to)

3) Free yourself from anger, hate, jealousy, and all negative thoughts (these will only prevent you from reaching your higher purpose, plus they cloud your judgement)

4) Be calm and patient (purpose comes when you are able to handle it maturely)

5) Always do good in the world (find a way to always make a difference everyday because it really does matter)

6) Surround yourself with positive and authentic people (get rid of the those who don’t want the best for you)

7) Believe in the goodness of who you are and what you can bring to the world (find it and hold on to it with everything you’ve got)

If you do these all, your purpose will find you. Trust me!

I may have died 3 days ago but I was reborn a better, wiser and more connected human being. My purpose and my mission are now clear.  So…how can I help you?