OK, it’s true. Life wasn’t full of fun and games for me but I’m here to tell you-I made it!
I became a Life Coach because I knew how it felt to be alone, sad, depressed, lost, unwanted, confused, not good enough, unloved, unappreciated and unseen. The highlights of my story: I grew up in the Middle East (sigh), my father died when I was 12 years old (I was daddy’s little girl), lived with a very upset mother who didn’t know what to do with a daughter who didn’t fit her definition of a Middle Eastern daughter (I was a tom boy who played sports and didn’t want to learn how to cook and clean), and then surprisingly I came out at the age of 25, happy yet confused (the family disowned me and kicked me out of the only home I knew here in the United States).
As you can tell, my life has been very “colorful”. I learned so much about the world in such a short amount of time, that I became an expert at being strong and hiding my true feelings. But the one thing that truly devastated me was the feeling of being unloved by my mother. No child should ever feel unloved at any point in their life. Ever. The residual effects are life-long and can be permanent if not dealt with. My self-esteem and confidence suffered greatly and I looked for love in all the wrong places. But I was determined to find real love and happiness, I knew deserved it.
In my late 30’s, I finally found my voice through forgiveness of myself and others, deep self-reflection, awareness, understanding and acceptance of all things in this world. Oh, and a good kick in the ass from my partner at the time who wouldn’t allow me to wallow in self-pity anymore. My whole life, I knew I was someone special but I didn’t know how to let that person out. I had lost my voice somewhere in my childhood and didn’t know where to look. So, I found peace in the silence and there I stayed. The world became clearer and I became calmer. I came to the understanding that we are what we choose to become. I found a way out of my darkness so I chose to become a Life Coach to let other women know it was possible too. I wanted to help others find their voices so they could live the true lives they felt in their hearts and dreamed of in their minds. It was my destiny. It was my turn to give back. And guess what, I’m living my dream and it feels amazing!
We must never forget that we are not our situations, issues, parents, siblings, or jobs. We are who we choose to be in this very moment. Our past cannot be changed so we must move forward with determination and confidence in order to have the life we want. It is up to us right now. Choose to live. Choose to be the real you!
Discussion question:
What have you overcome in your life that allowed you to become who you are today? I would love to hear your story!
Wishing you well on your incredible journey of self-discovery,
Coach Dina Blas
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You have had a colorful and interesting life. I love that you have reached the point where you recognize that we all CHOOSE who we are and who we will become.
I have been through a great deal in my life too. Currently, I’m dealing with Fibromyalgia. Thank you for sharing your story.
Emily,
Yes, the option to choose is an option most people think they don’t have. Even when not making a choice, they fail to realize that too is a choice. 🙂
I would love to hear more about how Fibromyalgia has affected your life. I’m sure its been a struggle.
Wishing you all the best in everything you do.
~ Dina
I think it takes a certain amount of challenge – and challenge on the big scale, like the things you’ve lived through – to get to the point where you can use that to help others and really understand what they might be dealing with. I admire you for having so much compassion for yourself and for the people you work with, and for putting that compassion to such good use. 🙂 So glad to read more of your story here !
Rosemary,
Thank you so much for your kind words! And yes, living through major experiences in ones lifetime has the ability to either “make you” or “break you”. The choice is up to us as to how we’d like to live the rest of our lives. I’m a fighter (as most people are) so I wasn’t going down without a few battle scars. Now I’m in a position to help others do the same. I feel liberated!
Blessings,
Dina
Wow! A comeback story! I love them, as you can tell from my post today. Thank you for commenting! Way to MAKE your life matter. We all matter, regardless of background, circumstance, etc., but you have clearly had a serious “a-ha” in your life. I am so glad that you are getting real- with a powerful and personal story of your journey here, and as a life coach. You go!
Donovan,
Thanks! Life is short and even shorter when we give up on it. So, I’m all in and I’m going to do my best to show people that your circumstances don’t create your life, you do! Thank you for stopping by and commenting. We coaches have to stick together! 🙂
Have a great day!
Dina
I don’t have much of a story to share. For the past year (a little more) I have been making the transition from full time employee to business owner. To go though this process, I’ve had to change my entire mindset and many beliefs I’ve developed growing up. I realized that many beliefs that I held did not support me, or the life I wanted to create for myself. I agree with you and understand when you say that our past cannot be changed, but we have the choice to create our own lives (& pasts if we want). It is entirely up to us. I am so happy that you found and created your happy life.
~ Jodene
Jodene,
Yay! So proud of you for sticking with it. I completely understand what you’re going through, as I am in the same transition. But our “whys” will keep us focused and our determination will not let us waiver. Good for you! I look forward to hearing about your continued success. Thank you for stopping by! 🙂
Blessings,
Dina