Are you in love or lust? How can you tell? Does it even matter? Aren’t they the same?

Well, no they are definitely not the same and yes, it does matter. In order to be honest and upfront in any relationship, understanding the differences between love and lust can keep everyone honest and happy.

The biggest difference between love and lust is that lust is short-term fun while love is a long-term commitment. Simply knowing this can help you evaluate your situation immediately. However, this is not to say that lust cannot turn into love or that a loving relationship could not have lust within it. I’m sure both scenarios occur quite frequently.

Here are some of the difference between love and lust:

Lust

• You are completely focused on her physical appearance
• You only want to have sex with her
• Conversations get in the way
• You fantasize all the time about having sex with her
• You would never be in a long term relationship with her
• You love the concept of friends with benefits
• You don’t hang around after sex or leave in the morning while making an excuse
• You only call her for a booty call
• You are too busy to hang out unless it’s to have sex

Love

• You focus on all her qualities not just her body
• You love spending time talking about anything and everything
• You lose track of time when conversing
• You fantasize about spending the rest of your life together
• You would only want a long term and meaningful relationship with her
• You want a monogamous relationship
• You love to cuddle and watch her sleep
• You tell her she can call anytime of the day because you love to hear her voice
• You can wait to have sex because she asked you to
• You become a better person because of her

Note: For anyone in the lesbian community that is reading this blog, I understand that there can be a blurred line when it comes to some of these differences. Due to the closeness most women feel when they get together, too often many lesbians misinterpret lust as love in the beginning of their dating courtship because of their strong desire to have a partner. Having sex with someone does not mean nor make a commitment ladies so be careful.

I also caution you to take your time getting to know someone before using the “love” word. You can love a lot of things “about” someone but that doesn’t necessarily mean that you love them. Falling in love comes over time while getting to know the very essence of someone. Yes, there are exceptions to this rule but for the majority of us, I encourage you not to “hitch up the U-haul on the second date”. Explore the reasons you are attached to the person in question and ask yourself if the reasons are valid or are you just compromising yourself to be with someone. Take your time. 🙂

Love is a very delicate thing. It requires time, nurture, compromise, loyalty, honesty, commitment, communication, teamwork, trust and faithfulness. If you’re not willing to do what is required to be in love, be honest with your sex partner so they can make a decision for themselves whether to stay with you or not.

So which is it for you? Love or lust? Wishing you all the luck in either pursuit. Just be responsible whatever you choose.

Love and Blessings,
Dina Marie Blas
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