Life is made up of lots of ups and down. That’s just the way it is. But how we handle every situation that comes our way, determines how our life plays out. Our choice to either move forward or not, is still a choice.
I’m here to tell you that “It’s ok to be happy again” no matter what the circumstances. Why am I telling you this? Because I want you to know that guilt or shame is not reason enough to stop living. Guilt and shame are the chains that bind you to a situation immediately but it’s not worth it. I know, I’ve been there.
I put my happiness on hold for years because I felt guilty that my mother was not happy living here in the United States. She missed her relatives and because of the language barrier had a hard time adjusting. So, I told myself it wasn’t right for me to smile or have fun when she wasn’t. Of course, I finally realized that no matter what I did or did not do, I could not control her situation and that her situation should not control my life.
We each have reasons why we put ourselves down or think we don’t deserve the better things in life. It’s ok to have the reasons as long as you take time to work through those reasons and put yourself first. No one deserves to be miserable, even miserable people. They are just circumstances that need resolution.
I encourage you to tell yourself, “I deserve to smile again. I deserve to feel again. I deserve to laugh again. I deserve to love again.” Do this over and over until you feel that slight twinge in your belly that starts to believe you. Once you believe it, do something that makes you smile, feel, laugh or love again. Remember what it felt like to be ok with you. Take back your power and give yourself a chance to be happy.
No one should feel an emptiness so large that they give up on life. Take care of yourself and live again! 🙂
Love and Blessings,
Coach Dina Blas
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Dina, I’m so glad you put this out there as so many of us had to figure it out for ourselves, and took a lot longer at it! If someone had gotten me to open my eyes a little sooner, I know I would have made changes to my life sooner, but that, as they say, is water under the bridge. I did finally realize that life was too short to be unhappy and (many years ago now) cut myself loose of a relationship/marriage that was tearing me down instead of building me up as a good relationship should. It was the best thing I ever did for myself! Happiness may not be a right, but it is, as you said, most definitely a choice!
Sheri,
You’re very welcome! Thank you for sharing your story. It’s incredible how life changes when we “choose” to put our happiness at the forefront of our lives. 🙂
Cheers,
Dina
I LOVE THIS and DEFINITELY needed to hear it and it certainly confirms what a dear friend said to me about this situation as well. Thank you Dina. This was AWESOME!!!! Now to start applying and moving forward for me!!!!
JoAnn,
So glad you liked it! Here’s to moving forward always! 🙂
Blessings,
Dina
Dina, I love how this post is another reflection of what I was talking about on HeartWiseLife.com today about emotional hijacking. I appreciate your realizations about your happiness being separate from your mother’s and so important to your survival. Amazing how mothers impact is in so many ways. I am raising a virtual glass to cheer your choosing happiness! I am right there with you, happy is the path I choose.
Minette,
Thank you for stopping over. I’m so glad we connected on this topic. Raising my virtual glass to you too for doing the same! 🙂
All the best,
Dina
So true – and so perfectly expressed. Thank you for recognising how hard it is to accept happiness for ourselves, sometimes, and how necessary the process of letting go of all the STUFF that keeps us from happiness.
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And an extra one for you : 🙂 !!!
Rosemary,
Thank you! I know how hard it is to work through any situation. We must also know we have to be able to make ourselves a priority in order to come through it.
((((hugs)))))
Dina 🙂