Why do people lie? I know, I know. There are so many reasons. I guess I’m really asking a rhetorical question at this moment. The question I really want to ask is, why do you lie? Wait, before you get your panties twisted, I’m not assuming that you lie. But if you do, I’d like you to take this moment to ask yourself why you do.
Again, this is not for me to know. Personal awareness and discovery is very private and should be practiced alone. However, if we understood why we did things, it would help us either change those behaviors if they needed to be changed or let us know we were on the right track.
Lying is a symptom of a bigger issue. Lying is what we do when we don’t want to tell the truth for one reason or another. Lying also occurs when we are trying to protect ourselves or someone else in a bad situation. So not all lying is bad…but most of it is.
The biggest realization that we must be aware of is that there can never be just one lie. Once a lie is told, there are usually others that follow in order to cover up the first lie. As you can tell, this can get quite complicated, frustrating and stressful.
So, what we should focus on is, why telling the truth is better. Telling the truth no matter how harsh it may be is important to do. Because once it’s out there, the healing or resolution can begin. Lying only prolongs the inevitable. Plus the toll it can take on the mind and body isn’t worth it.
The best way to stop lying is to understand that the truth will always set us free. Free of more lies, not free of any complications that may follow the truth. However, the truth is a foundation you can stand on firmly and know it is what it is. There is no sugar coating, covering up, etc. It’s there and it’s in your face.
The truth does so many things that a lie cannot:
- it gives you peace of mind
- you can spend more time thinking of other things
- people will learn to trust you
- you will build and exude integrity in life
- your words and actions will be respected
- you won’t feel like you have to be on the defensive all the time
So if you’re prone to lying (even the small white lies), why not promise to give yourself a chance at a life filled with honesty, respect and appreciation in everything you do. It’s easier than you think.
Wishing you well,
Coach Dina Blas
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I absolutely despise lying, it’s awful! How can a person expect to build a relationship of trust with others if they can’t even tell the truth! Great post!
Sophie,
Me too! But each person must learn and understand their own reasons for behaving this way. Only then can they find the peace they are searching for.
Thanks for stopping by,
Dina
I totally agree, Dina. As I was reading your post the word ‘authenticity’ (Ironically I wrote a post about this an hour ago lol) came up.
When we lie we are not being authentic. We are wrapping up and shrouding our authenticity with our lies. We are covering up our light and our beauty with our ‘lies’ or inauthenticity.
And when we do this we are creating a momentum where we may have to lie more to cover up the previous lies. Lies follow lies and soon we get to a point where we do not know the lies from the truth, it all blurs into one. At that point you will have lost your sense of who you are too.
Thank you, Dina 🙂
Hemal,
You’re right…it’s all about being authentic. But sometimes, people don’t know who they are so being the “real” them is a mystery. The lies are their reality. My hope is that people realize that telling the truth will set them free from themselves and others in the same situation.
Thanks for your post!
Dina
Great blog, Dina! So very true. And, I’ve learned where there is one lie, there are a million. Plus, if someone lies to one person, they lie to others as well. That knowledge removed the guilt of believing for me. I know being lied to wasn’t about me; the worst thing I did was trust. It was about the liar.
Janet,
I hope you will continue to believe in yourself and allow others to find the answers they are searching for. Most of the time, the lie has nothing to do with us. We are merely the person in that moment in time for them.
Take care,
Dina
I really like this Dina. I follow a spiritual path that encourages rigorous honesty and I am continually discovering more ways to become more honest. And uncovering dishonesty can help to heal resentment and self-pity so is very powerful. Thought provoking – thank you!
Harriet,
I’m glad the post resonated with you. I, too, am constantly looking for ways to improve my life and be more authentic. 🙂
Thank you for stopping by!
Dina
Personally, I hate lies. I’d rather tell someone the truth no matter what because if you tell them a lie and they find out later they are not only going to be hurt, they are going to be mad. If you tell them the truth they are going to hurt so either way they are going to hurt. You will most definitely respect a person who tells the truth rather than one who lies. At least that’s how I feel. Great blog!!!
JoAnn,
So glad you stopped in. And yes, telling the truth should always be your first choice since its going to be the final choice anyway. Good for you!
Blessings,
Dina
I dont like lies especially those that pose potential pain, hurt or coverup of personal misdeeds. Falsehoods aimed at luring others. I dont even like the word.. Lie. Although truth hurts agree that honesty is the best policy. It can be difficult to not want to “sugar coat” sometimes to protect others. 2 cents
Gin,
Yes, lies and truths can both be hard to handle. But when you come from a place of authenticity, you can handle either with ease. Live from your truth and everything will be ok.
Take care,
Dina